4th of July is around the corner.
In New York City, there will be fireworks on the East River.
When I was single, I hated any holidays because it reminded me how lonely I was when many couples are celebrating holidays together.
Feeling lonely is something you want to avoid, isn’t it?
There are so many ways to avoid that feeling.
Long phone calls with your girlfriends, hanging out at bars, trying new restaurants, spending long hours at work, working on weekends, going to parties and getting drunk, looking for events you feel you belong somewhere or to someone.
Feeling sad or lonely is not all bad because it reminds you why you are trying to find love.
When you go home after a long day at work, isn’t what you want someone who hugs you and tells you something sweet and comforting so that you feel better?
Don’t you want to go to friends’ BBQ parties as a couple so you don’t have to convince yourself that you’re okay being single?
Don’t be afraid to those feelings!
So, what you going to do about it?
Which is more effective to meet good guys; online or offline?
The answer is both works and neither works.
It’s like a riddle, but I can’t say which is more effective.
I married my husband whom I met online, and I know many couples met online too. And there are couples who met offline and they’re happily married.
It’s not about HOW you meet him, but how committed you are to finding love!
But being married has nothing to do with it. You can still be independent, remain strong and keep your career and being married.
So, ask yourself WHY you wanted to find the guy to have a serious relationship in the first place.
Isn’t it because you wanted to have more fulfilled life with someone you love and you’re loved by that man? A relationship where you are cherished and adored as a woman? A family that you’ve always wanted?
Imagine how you feel when you finally have that in your life. Then, being single is no longer a choice for you to choose.
Being a dating and relationship coach, I get asked the same questions over and over.
“Where can I meet guys? Where are they?”
Well, here is the thing.
I walked around Manhattan today, and I saw dozen and dozen of nice-looking, handsome, well-dressed single men all over the place.
During lunch time, they were picking up lunches, sitting in the park, enjoying their time away from the office. Around 3 in the afternoon, they are going to Starbucks for a coffee break!
It’s not the issue of where you can find men, but where you can find YOUR KIND OF MEN, right?
Many single women are seeing this in a wrong direction.