Hi, everyone. Welcome back.
I hope I gave you something to think about in the last post, "Which do you choose?"
Why does it feel so difficult to be in love?
Is that something people all over the world do so easily? What do I have to learn about it? Doesn't it come naturally?
Here is the thing.
As we get older, we wear more layers around us; emotional layers for protection.
We experienced enough hurts and heartbreaks and we don't want to get hurt again.
But, having those layers wouldn't let you experience what a life with that someone special can offer you.
You might be able to get into a relationship or get married anyway, but you are like half asleep. Your eyes are open, but not seeing anything.
I decided to let the shields down, but it didn't happen over night. Even after I started dating my husband, there were moments when I was about to push him away because I felt uncomfortable to have someone so close to me.
I needed to be aware of the moment when I was the one who sabotages my own happiness so that I was able to choose consciously a different path.
It was the reaction based on fear of getting hurt again.
But I needed to trust what my decision was right, and respond for my better future.
Conscious choices create your future. Reaction is just a repeat of the past.